Is It Possible To Be a Good Friend and a Good Mom?


Motherhood is a full-time job with guaranteed overtime. Oftentimes, we find ourselves in such a crazy schedule that being a good friend goes to the bottom of our list.

Friendships and motherhood are tricky when they are together. Friendships can easily get lost. A lot of us feel lonely at some point.

It would be great to know, can we have both? Can we have friends and be moms?

Is It Possible To Be a Good Friend and a Good Mom?When we have friends who don’t have children, they might not be able to understand our schedule or our actions. Not because they don’t care. But simply because the priority list and journey we live are so different.

On the other hand, friends who do have children can also lead to uncomfortable situations when our thinking process isn’t the same. Also, a relationship can be hard when there’s a lack of quality time because between family and life, getting together is just hard.

Friendship Fallout

Recently, I experienced a friendship fallout, and I have to say it’s been extremely painful. A friendship of over 10 years suddenly changed in such a weird way. As I was trying to reach out for that shoulder to rely on, I found myself alone. I am not the type of person who opens up to anyone, so my list of real friends is SMALL. However, when “my person” was not interested in being there at all anymore, it hurt!

It is not the first time I have experienced a friendship fallout, especially as a mom. I’ve lost friends for many reasons. Friendships come and go. But those real friendships, the ones you connect with, and you have a life full of memories with, are painful to lose.

How do we gain new friends?

Social media friendships appear nowadays to be the strongest links around, especially for moms on the go like myself. It’s amazing how friendships built via social media, or in a small period of time, tend to be more supportive and affectionate than others. But is that the case all around? Or just for moms?

Facebook has a lot of mom groups, and some of them even have chats on the side. Also, there are apps such as Peanut which is an app designed to help moms meet others moms for support and friendships. Aside from social media, we have the old ways such as schools or the extracurricular activities we take our children to. I think sources for finding friends are wide, but finding the right ones can get tricky.

The search for a good friendship that can balance your motherhood style can be quite a journey. Let’s see where my journey takes me as I am once again finding some matches for myself. In the meantime, I am one of the many other moms who find themselves lost in the friendship department.

What about you? How do you find friends?

Originally published March 2022.

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Ana L. Diaz
Born in Salt Lake City, Utah, Ana Diaz was raised by her mother and her grandmother between Ciudad Juarez and El Paso, TX. She became the first generation graduate in her family. Today, Ana is a devoted mother of three wonderful children: a 12-year-old son, a 4-year-old daughter, and a 2-year-old daughter. Balancing the responsibilities of parenthood with her career and community involvement, Ana exemplifies unwavering dedication and love for her family and community. Professionally, Ana is a valued member of the Texas Tech University Health Sciences Center of El Paso. In addition to her professional endeavors, Ana is actively involved in various aspects of her children's lives. She serves as an engaged member of the PTA, supporting educational initiatives and fostering a sense of community within her children's school. As an orchestra and football mom, Ana dedicates her time and energy to enriching her children's extracurricular experiences, nurturing their talents, and cheering them on with unwavering enthusiasm.


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