Mom life is demanding. Not only are we responsible for ourselves, but we are also responsible for raising humans that came from our bodies. These tiny humans are in constant change. They consume our time and our lives. However, motherhood is fun, lovely, and simply one of the best parts of my life. Yet, let’s not forget that not only are we moms but we are women–we are individuals, and we also face constant changes and needs.
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My Story with Chronic Illness
Since my teen years, I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) which is a chronic condition with hormones. I have a list of chronic illnesses, major surgeries, and hospitalizations. My first major surgery was at age 15! So I have experienced quite a medical journey, making my pain tolerance and adaptability quite high.
I often find myself saying, “I am not proud of being sick, but it is something that I am working to embrace.”
I have only seen my mom in the hospital two times. I can only recall her battling a cold maybe around 10 times! On the other hand, my oldest son has seen me several times in the hospital, sick in bed, or recovering from surgeries. My kids have to see their mom sick and not at her fullest capacity at all times (like I got to see my mom growing up). This has affected me–it makes me feel weak and like I’m not the best mom in the world.
I am constantly finding ways to not only kill the guilt that I am a full-time working mom by doing PTA, play dates, and more, but I also struggle to find ways to hide the bad days of pain or flare-ups. Admitting to others the long medical history is challenging, and accepting you need help from family and friends is worse.
It’s Okay to Have Chronic Illnesses
Having chronic illnesses is not easy because people don’t often understand the symptoms or limitations that come from those. This leads to judgment. Let’s be realistic, we can judge each other a lot.
Accepting who you are, the medical challenges you have, and giving yourself a break are the best ways to deal with chronic illnesses. There are some days that life will be harder because you are dealing with a migraine or a flare-up of your illness, but there will also be days in which you feel great! Regardless of the day and time, be the best version of yourself, and take good care of yourself. If mom is okay, the kids are okay. Our kids love us so much, and they still see us as their superheroes.
Be proud of who you are, and embrace your scars (literary!). Don’t allow judgment coming from others define the type of mom that you are. Take good care of yourself! Be a priority because you need that little extra support to help you keep going. Having chronic illnesses doesn’t make us any less. Rather we are stronger because we battle against those silent symptoms daily to continue raising those tiny humans we made.
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